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How to Let Go in Life.
I always remember a scene in “The Life Of Brian”, where The crowd thinks Brian is the Messiah. He eventually gets pissed off with them and tells them to “F — k Off”. They in turn reply “How do we F — k Off Messiah”
Every time I think of letting go, I think of that scene.
When I was first told to let go, my very first question was How?, Followed by “let go of what?”. For me the whole concept of “letting go” was absurd. I had started rehab from alcohol and everywhere I looked I saw slogans: “Let go, Let God” The AA old timers would say “Let it go, son, let it go”
I was ready to scream “Let WHAT go?” “What the hell are you on about”?.
“That’s it”, I was told, “Let go of the hell”.
I began to have my A-ha moments, did they mean the pain?. I thought they meant to let go of my desire to drink, which I didn’t have after my last one.
A lot of people in recovery and self-improvement movements would encourage you to let go of the past, which makes total sense as not doing so or be willing to do so, will only inhibit you from moving forward. But we resist!!
We are creatures of habit and change of any kind is hard, for 2 reasons:
- Comfort Zone — no matter how dysfunctional your life may be, it is what you know and what you are familiar with.
- Acceptance- No one wants to admit that they have a dysfunctional life. Many emotions get in the way, like pride and shame.
So, in that case, you might as well stay put. But what inspires people to want to change, to want to let go of the pain.
The pain of staying stuck.
Deep down, everyone wants to better their lives, everyone wants to be happier. Face it life can be hard, and if it wasn’t so, why would you want to change it.
Our past haunts us
Memories can make you or break you and you cannot choose what you want to remember, as memories are stored in the subconscious. What we can choose is what memories we want to keep and those we want to forget.
Get rid of the pain by rewriting your story.
We are emotional beings and all thoughts have an emotional attachment, either good or bad, happy or sad. If you have made it this far in life, then you are a survivor and cannot play the victim role anymore.(fact)
It doesn’t really matter how you got here anymore as we all did the best we could, even if it was a total train wreck. Let go of the pain YOU give yourself by judging yourself for your own past and blaming people and circumstances that helped shape your life.
They are now gone and cannot hurt you anymore, unless you continue to let them.
Let go of the pain and the bad memories will soon disappear.
Letting go isn’t about sitting about praying, doing mantras or saying “Om”
Letting go is getting in touch with the things that really hurt you in the past, that need to be accepted, loved, and released. It’s a journey rather than a destination.
Letting go takes action, as you have to be willing to list all your pains, both done to you and what you have done. In AA they call these Step 4 “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves” and Step 5 “ “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs” You have to get down to the nitty gritty and be willing to leave no stone unturned, and no skeletons in the closet. Although associated with the 12 Step Movement, anyone can do a 4th & 5th step. Do you have the courage to do so?
Raw Honesty and Naked Vulnerability.
When you get brutally honest and are willing to be completely vulnerable and make your life confession, then you are in a position to truly let go of your past and all your troubled emotions.
To talk out your life story it is best that you find someone you trust, who will not judge you, or console you, but will listen with empathy.
You will be & feel as free as a bird afterwards.
Holding onto your past is like carrying a rucksack full of stones, for the rest of your life.
The next step is to forgive. Forgive YOURSELF first, as you have been your own worst critic, and Forgive everyone and everything that hurt you in life. How long do you do this? Until you no longer feel any emotional pain. So if it takes a life time, so be it.
Nature abhors a vacuum.
As you let (sh)it go, you have to replace all those limited beliefs with positive Re enforcing beliefs about yourself. Do this until you truly believe. How?
Affirmations, gratitude and appreciation, heightening your self awareness, challenging self defeating and negative thoughts, feeling & behaviors.
You are Worth It!
At the end of the day You have every right to be on this planet. You are not a mistake, so go forth and live the best life you can live. It’s all up to YOU.
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To Sum Up
Content Marketing is a prime example of how to practice consistency, patience, learn tolerance, be consistent and persistent. It is a great self-learning.
I do try to learn from my mistakes, and that is why they are little miracles in themselves that happen for a reason.
I am a growth-seeking being I will continue to seek change in myself. What motivates me is the Pain – Pleasure, which moves me away from my pain points (a lack of finances, time & peace of mind) to my pleasure points (freedom of finances, time & peace of mind).
The way I have found to achieve this freedom and to move away from the “Groundhog Day” of life is through online marketing.
I have taken this step into the abyss, I’m not tech savvy at all, and with the support of Six Figure Mentors-SFM, I am working my way through it.
The internet is here to stay and is the future for all of us, so don’t get left behind because it is gaining momentum.
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I wish you a happy day, Take Care.
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